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Sending the Right Scholastic Message at Home

It's no surprise to anyone that children need time with their parents. And even though most parents are extremely busy, whether they work outside the home or not, they do find time to spend with their children. So that time should really count in helping prepare children for the world they will find outside the home.

What counts most is what we say and do at home, not how rich or poor we are or how many years of school we have finished.

When children can count on getting attention at home, they have a greater sense of security and self-worth. This will help them do better not only in school, but also when they grow up.

If you think about it, school, while very important, does not really take up very much time. In the United States, the school year averages 180 days; in other industrialized nations, the school year can extend up to 240 days, and students are often in school more hours per day. So, the hours and days a child is not in school are important for learning too.

Three of the important messages children need to know about success in any aspect of life can be sent by parents, in the following ways:

 
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Sharing our own experiences and goals with our children, because children tend to adopt our ideals. They need to know how we feel about making an effort, working hard, and planning ahead.
 
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Establishing realistic, consistent family rules for work around the house so our children can develop schedules and stable routines. Children need limits to be set, even though they will test those limits over and over again. Children need to know what they can depend on - and they need to be able to depend on the rules we make.
 
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Encouraging our children to think about the future. Children need realistic, reasonable expectations, and they need the satisfaction of having some of these expectations met. They need to take part in making decisions (and to learn that sometimes this means sacrificing fun now for benefits later) and they need to find out what happens as a result of decisions they have made.

Throw a stone into a pond and the circles widen and overlap. None of us lives in isolation. The circles of home, community, and school overlap also. For children to learn and thrive, they need the support and encouragement of all the circles in which we live. But the circle in the center is the home and that's where it all starts.

 

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